My Marriage will end by Death

Kingdom Principle:  The Kingdom is the measure by which time is tested and made true.

Haggai 1:15b-2:9 Psalm 145:1-5, 17-21 2 Thessalonians 2:1-5, 13-17 Luke 20:27-38

I’m not talking about murder, but my vows were until death do us part.  Marriage was not designed to work in heaven, as it does on earth. And when something does not work and it has no worth, it is time to get rid of it. We will return to the concept of marriage below.

The Kingdom is the true measure of worth, and for this post we are looking at the value of time.  2 Peter 3:8 tells us that with the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. You can set your life according to the time of the Kingdom and you will always be on time. There is both chronos and karios aspects of time in “this age” – you can review that if you wish – but here the aspect is not about how time moves in “this age”, but rather how you move into the times of “the age to come”.  Another angle on this concept is how control, keeps your focus on time in this age, for in the age to come there is no such concept.   Many go through life with God in their pocket. This is a reference to your phone which can control your day and set your schedule. If we get fixed on time as it is set in this age, then we will struggle to have freedom in or abide by time that is beyond this age. In the Kingdom we must come to flow with time, living in both this age and the eagerly anticipating and participating in age to come at the same time.  Imagine trying to control every aspect of your marriage. Exhausting! And truly a waste of time, energy and effort – Marriage is a relationship and not designed to be controlled. Once you are in control, intimacy is no longer possible, for the relationship is not longer one of love, rather it is based in fear.

God’s flow of time is set to move you in this age, so that you encounter the age to come. When you are in the Kingdom of God – which is everlasting – your experience of time is altered to meet God not the other way around. This week we encounter 4 passages that are all about time, both in “this age”, and the “age to come”.  But first I want us to be on the same page with the concepts of “this age”, “age to come”, and “resurrection”

“This age” (Mark 10:29-30, Eph. 1:21, Matt 12:32) is the time prior to the return of the Lord. This age is also clearly under the siege of the enemy of God. (1 Cor. 2:6-8, 3:18, 2 Cor. 4:4, Gal. 1:4) “The age to come” is that which follows Christ’s return. (Matt. 13:24-30, 37-43) The “End Times” focus on events that separate this age and those to take place in the age to come – create controversy  and questions arise for many here.  I am of the perspective that Christ will return, His Return will not be known ahead of time, His return will only take place once, (which means no rapture, prior to a second coming) and there is not a literal 1000 year reign after this return. (Persecution and the signs of the times will intensify until His return) Much more can be said – look here.

Further, I believe in a physical resurrection, meaning our bodies will be raised physically. I cannot and will not attempt to explain this mystery here – but resurrection is certainly not mere a spiritual experience. (1 Cor. 15:20, 51-54, 2 Cor. 5:1-5, Phil. 3:20-21) (Nor do I believe that resurrection of our bodies must wait until the age to come – it can and does begin now as we call our physical senses to be spiritual portals of the Kingdom Come – see is more is that after the return of Christ, and the full resurrection (Acts 24:15, 1 Thess. 4:15-17) there will be a final judgment. (Matt. 24: 3-31; John 5:21-30, 6:39-54, 12:47-48)This judgment will be the final act of all that was in “this age” including the judgement of the power and thwarting efforts of Satan  and those who followed his ways will be cast into the lake of fire. (Rev. 20:10-15) And one final note –Eternal life  and the Kingdom of Heaven beings in this age, not in the age to come. (Luke 17:21, John 17:3)

So – back to the texts this week….

To live in the Kingdom is to have your identity rooted and established in the love of Christ. (Eph 3:14-21)We have seen this over the last few weeks in our Worth. When our worth is redeemed, and salvation is granted unto us… our identity is found in intimacy with Jesus. This intimacy “in this age” is often represented (although poorly) through the marriage bed relationship between a husband and wife. (Ephesians 5:8-10, 17-21, 22-33) But “in the age to come” there will be even greater glory in intimacy with God such that the former will no longer even be practiced. This is why those who choose celibacy and not marriage are choosing what is better for they have their focus on the intimacy of the “age to come” NOW. (1 Cor. 7:1-9, Matt. 19:10-12) This same concept holds true throughout all of Scriptures. (Read the book of Hebrews…and track the concept of better/greater) However regardless of where you find yourself, you are at the right time NOW! For now is the moment of engagement for you, and the LORD hears your cry and will save you. This is true now and forever more, for the Kingdom is from Everlasting to Everlasting.  All this is because of the Truth that set’s us Free and it is the Spirit of Truth (John 1:14, 8:36,14:15-17) who brings about this work in our lives such that we can stand firm and hold fast.


Your Identity is the Key to your Freedom.  The trick of the Sadducees question was that they linked the woman’s identity to her dead husband(s), and “if” there was a resurrection (which the Sadducees did not believe in) then how can her identity be given to her from all 7 (number of perfection) husbands.  Is your identity formed by this of this age or of the age to come? Steven Covey, in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective people– suggests that your center or Identity comes from where you derive your Wisdom, Power, Guidance and Security.

True Freedom is found in Self-Control. This means that nothing outside of you – controls you. Since you have been washed and redeemed, buy the Blood of the Lamb (John 1:29)sin no longer is your master. (Romans 6:12-14) Rather the Spirit of God is in you producing the fruit of Self-control. (Gal. 5:22-23)This Control is not to avoid doing bad, rather self-control is choose to believe what God says about us, rather than believing or acting on the lies of the enemy. (John 8:42-47, 2 Timothy 1:7, Eph. 2:1-10)

Self-Control moves toward Intimacy by Faith.  (Titus 2:11-14) As I abide with Christ and choose (where I choose – I exercise self-control) to be with Him, rather than to be tempted by the addictions of this world, I continue to grow in my trust and faith in Him. This exchange of time with the King, rather than to give into temptations of the world yields an intimacy that moves beyond this age into the next.

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